I used to think success was...
Inviting in new possibilities for more effortless, aligned fulfillment, peace and satisfaction---pre-recorded EFT Tapping Therapy session, "I Relax in Success" inside
When I was in elementary school, I thought success was getting the best grades I possibly could while not getting into trouble with teachers, my parents or any grown-up for that matter.
When I was in high school, I was conditioned to believe success was piling my plate high with the hardest classes, participating in sports and extracurricular activities as well as having a part-time job.
When I was in college, I believed success was taking more units than was required while working three different jobs and running on the cross-country team while performing in a school musical put on by the theatre department—-oh and graduating sooner than the standard four years.
In my 20’s, my definition of success was all about climbing the proverbial ladder, earning as much money as a I could, buying a house, and hopefully getting married.
When I hit 30, all I could think of was working for myself, having time, money and location-freedom as well as the ability to sleep in a bit longer while lingering in the mornings. Gee, I wonder why! I’m exhausted just looking back over all my prior versions of success.
Now, that I’ve hit 50, success looks a helluva lot different these days. My new success feels soothing, spacious, emotionally freeing, relaxing and expansive.
Gone are the days of solely focusing on making the almighty dollar, having the perfect image, and getting it all “right.”
After 22 years of being in business for myself, I’ve learned to invite in the mistakes, to welcome the feedback and trust in divine timing. The push, force and trying to make it all work, well, it never worked!
I see now that there are seasons in my business and in my life. There are windfalls and then there’s famine, bursts of creativity, inspiration, frustration and despair.
When I was younger, such a fluctuation would take me into panic; now, I just greet each cycle and phase with curiosity, intuition, gentleness and an inner sense of knowing that it will all work out…I’ve been here before.
While I have an overall plan for each year to help me stay focused and organized, that plan also allows me flexibility throughout each week, as well as the ability to take a bit day-by-day which I’m so grateful for.
I’m not making millions like I was conditioned to aim for but having my life designed the way it is now feels priceless. I get to go at my own pace, bask in my own aura each day, and embrace calm, peace and inner quiet.
Sure, there’s more I’d like to see happen when it comes to my latest version of success but part of my new success-identity has been partnering with patience, trust and surrender and the more I do so, the easier my business and life fall into flow.
Yesterday, I had the privilege of guiding 12 women from Germany, the United States and The Netherlands in a 75-minute Group EFT Tapping session hosted in a beautiful glass greenhouse in the village of Westkapelle.
The retreat was called, “Reconnect” and the purpose of it was to reconnect the women with their success-frequency and true essence of themselves. We used EFT to help them identify the limiting beliefs holding them back from their current definition of success while inviting in the empowering beliefs they’d like to believe in and operate from to facilitate fulfillment, ease and satisfaction into their lives.
During our debriefing, one of the women shared she had a huge a-ha moment where she recognized her current definition of success is NOTHING like she was trained to believe it SHOULD BE! She reflected aloud, “I thought success was supposed to be this Western approach where I have it all, can do it all, and should want to climb higher and higher. I realize today, and after this retreat, that success to me now is being relaxed and having the ability to relax.”
Wow, just wow, right?
I’m inviting you now to look over the various stages of your life. Think back to what you thought success was for you in elementary school then high school, in your 20’s and beyond. You may want to grab a pen and journal your answers or voice-memo your responses to these reflection questions:
How have your definitions of success changed throughout the years?
Who helped formed your definitions of success in the past? What do you imagine was driving their definitions?
What would you like your current definition of success to be? What must it include? What aspects of your prior definitions of success are no longer relevant?
If you could guess, what do you imagine is currently blocking or standing in your way of having your ideal version of success right now?
Who would you be if you were living your ideal version of success? (more relaxed? more emotionally free? more humorous, open, inviting? softer?)
Now join me for this month’s pre-recorded EFT Tapping Therapy session: I Relax in Success
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